Carl Jung once said “The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.”
I read of a relationship that to me had everything that Jung was talking about. Both persons transformed by love, emotion, sexuality, chemistry, commitment and that special bonding two people have. Unconditional love.Both are in their 60’s..Warm, intelligent, honest and completely open. They ran a successful business in a small, idyllic, sleepy seaside town, where people leave their doors open whilst they pop down to the beach for a swim.
Now.. this couple is at the centre of a hate campaign. Their mail-order gardening business, that they built out of their love for horticulture, (after both leaving successful teaching careers,) was torched 6 months ago. The packing shed destroyed, along with the part-time jobs of 8 employees at the height of the season..
Now here’s the thing..
It has cost them their business, and left them preparing to quit the beach-side community that they love. But, more than this, it has caused them to question being openly gay!!
Between them, the couple has five children and 10 grandchildren who all know that their grans are in a lesbian marriage. They have both lived in heterosexual relationships. They married each other, celebrating their love and Lesbian commitment in a Civil Union ceremony.
In their time living in this tiny community, they have never had a bad word uttered against them. Now the hatred has escalated to crudely written graffiti scrawled across their cars, fences, sleep out and the walls of their cosy house.
People are disgusted and asking why them? There has been a gay presence, including a lesbian community, in the area for many years, without anything like this ever occurring.
So…why now? They’ve never hidden their sexuality, or in fact their relationship.
They’re optimistic that the general ease with which they, as a gay couple have been accepted as any straight couple, will continue to be the hallmark of the seaside village in which they live despite the ‘homophobic’ attack on them.
It is a sad indictment in today’s society, where we are taught tolerance and acceptance that attacks of this nature continue to take place.
We don’t care that politicians living in a Lesbian relationship can become pregnant, or that a ‘super-star’ and his partner can adopt a child, but when it comes down to this everyday ordinary couple, out pours the hatred.
Perhaps they are a much easier target for the cowardly, gutless person that has set out to destroy this unassuming couple in their 60’s.
Many of my friends are gay and openly in loving relationships. I love and respect their decision to commit to each other. Sometimes I look at them and wish that every couple had what they have.. Sadly this is not the case.
There is still far too much hatred and homophobia on this Mortal Coil’
Even Pope Benedict has said the Catholic Church could not accept gay marriage and urged young people to root out evil in society and shun a “lukewarm” faith that damages their Church.
He needs to take a long hard look inside His own house first!!
As my mother once said…
“Before you try to change other people, just remember how hard it is to change yourself..”